Lifestyle Coaching for Teens
It’s a taboo that society rarely talks about and rarely even admits the existence of: we have largely lost ourselves to the Societal marketing machine that tells us what will make us happy, successful, good human beings. All the while cancer rates are up, the world is falling apart politically, and divorce is now a case not of if, but when. Our actions speak louder than words – so while on the outside we try to teach our children the art of individualism and self esteem, what we are often subconsciously teaching is the exact opposite. This is because this generation of children and teenagers learns primarily by example. The old saying “do as I say – not as I do” no longer applies. As a result, our society is filled with the epidemic of needing more from the outside. Trying to find the elusive one that “completes you”, and the feeling of never having or being enough.
A huge percentage of the children born after 1980 are considered “indigo children” – which in scientific terms means that they have heightened capabilities in the right side of the brain. They have a creative and kinetic learning style preference in conflict with our current traditional schooling system which is based on the left brain rational and systematic learning styles. The result of this difference is that some children are being labeled with the disease’s “ADHD or ADD” when in fact they just function, process, learn and therefore behave in a different way than what human evolution has witnessed before. It’s when we try to get these gifted teenagers to conform to the way we have been living and learning that they become disruptive and show a lack of attention.
Their learning style is not as formal as in generations past. Being primarily creative in their process they will “pick and choose” information that is prevalent to them in that moment. Although they seem to discard the rest of the information given to them, often they will absorb it but put it to the back of their minds for future reference.
So what happens when the Indigo children become Indigo teenagers? Key characteristics of Indigo teenagers seem to be appearing, such as they demand a certain level of respect. They themselves only give respect to people or things that ring true to them: they question everything. The smallest hint of hypocrisy to an Indigo teenager will result in them discarding any “wisdom” you bestow upon them in the future. To them, it’s about practicing what you preach – and nothing less will be tolerated. It’s hard to give credit to this way of thinking when you come from the perspective that these “children” have only been here 15 or 16 years. However most indigos are “old souls” and often have glimpse memories of former lives. They have an innate feeling and sometimes even “know” that they are here for important work – but not being completely clear as to what this work is, can outwardly be expressed as frustration, anxiety or depression.
The societal pull of the outside world, mixed in with this inner yearning and drive towards the unknown can often make an Indigo feel as though they are being split in two. Being pioneers for the next evolutionary step they feel as though no one understands them, and while their peers offer support in their frustration, they themselves are often going through the same thing. It is this split that is creating a loss of self – and potentially the loss of a nation.
Lifestyle Coaching is proving to be beneficial for teenagers to help them come into adulthood with awareness and insight as to who they are. Leaving behind the connotations of counseling and psychology that you need to be “fixed”, Lifestyle Coaching for Indigos begins with an understanding that these people already have amazing insight – and often just need to learn to channel their gifts and energy in such a way that helps them and other people understand where they are coming from and where they need to go next.
In the wise words of Gilbran from the book “the Prophet”:
“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself…
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.”