Anger is Your Little Friend
Anger is Your Little Friend
By: Michaiel Patrick Bovenes
January 9, 2008
Anger is energy, an emotion, and it is part of the experience of life.
Anger can become your greatest enemy toward developing good health and well being or it can become your greatest ally toward healing and finding personal peace. It all hinges upon how you relate to your emotions. Before we explore the nature of anger, it is important to clarify “positive” and “negative” emotions.
Emotions are a Part of our feedback system about how to live our lives
They inform us of what we need to do in order to survive. As a society we have judged our emotions and placed them into basically 2 categories, positive (good) and negative (bad) emotions. We tend to label any feelings that are constrictive (ie. fear, guilt, loneliness) as bad and any emotions that are expansive (love, joy, fulfillment) as positive. The challenge is to redefine your relationship to all of your emotions and changing the way you relate to each of them. Here is how to do that.
New Way to Relate to Your Emotions:
Negative Emotions are any emotion (love or fear) that you Ignore, Deny, Repress. Regardless of their names, all emotions become negative when you refuse to feel them. I have often said anger never hurt anyone, repressed anger has killed millions of people in the course of our history. Because eventually repressed anger explodes into a rage. The repression of the anger is what causes it’s destructiveness. Likewise, love that goes unexpressed is just as destructive as anger. Emotions are energy and meant to be felt.
Positive Emotions are any emotion that you Feel, Express and Release! When you respect your anger as much as love, you will have matured your emotional intelligence and begin to take dominion over this part of your life.
Anger is the most misunderstood and repressed emotions. When you can understand the nature of anger, and are willing to feel it, you can begin to harness a lost power that is key to creating permanent and positive changes in your life. The power of your will, or commonly known as willpower.
Repressing Anger will Depress Action. We have been brain-washed from childhood to judge anger as a negative emotion. It is not! Like all emotions, anger is meant to be felt, expressed and released… appropriately. You’ll also free up incredible amounts of will power that you need to become more disciplined and take action in your life.
Repressed Anger Always has Negative Impact in our Lives. Yet within all anger is a trapped hidden resource of willpower. The energy needed to take action, end procrastination and take charge of our life, can be found once you tap into and release this emotion. It is the greatest benefit that anger offers us. You can learn to feel and release it, appropriately and begin to change your life for the better. If we deny anger, we also automatically deny a part of our will-power and our ability to create positive changes in our lives. Addictions, worry, self doubt, confusion, and powerlessness all expand when anger is repressed. When anger is released these negativities will decrease automatically.